It can be incredibly difficult for someone who has experienced past traumas, such as rejection, abandonment, or negative experiences, and insecurities to open themselves up to the possibility of love. They may feel overwhelmed and uncertain, or like they don’t deserve love. This can lead them to retreat into a defensive “fight or flight” mode, pushing others away or avoiding intimacy altogether.
For someone who has never experienced love in a healthy, supportive way, the idea of being vulnerable with another person can be terrifying. They may fear being rejected or abandoned all over again, and may struggle to trust that this new person truly cares for them. As a result, they may pull back or avoid connecting altogether, even if they deeply desire love and connection with this person.
It’s important to remember that these fears are completely understandable, and that it can take time and effort to overcome them. It may be helpful for this person to seek life coaching or therapy as they navigate their feelings and work towards building healthier, more fulfilling relationships. It’s also important for their partner to be patient, understanding, and supportive, and to communicate openly and honestly about their needs and feelings. With time, love, and effort, it is possible for this person to learn to trust and connect with others in a meaningful way.