Before You Say “I Do” — Let’s Talk Strategy
By Julie Blouin, Life & Business Strategist
People often ask why I’ve never been married. Here’s the truth: I’m not here to entertain temporary pleasures or check a societal box.
I haven’t said “yes” to forever yet, and that’s exactly why I’m going unfiltered and unapologetic in this article. Because while some rush into vows, I’m waiting on alignment. I don’t need emotional turbulence to prove I can survive it. I’m not looking to pass an exam on resilience.
Forever is a life-long commitment. And I don’t take that lightly. That kind of greatness takes time to achieve. It requires discernment, clarity, and most importantly, self-mastery.
🚩 If Your Fiancée Is Saying This, Pause and Listen.
If your fiancée is using phrases like
- “I’ve dreamt of a royal or fairy tale wedding my whole life.”
- “I’m a hopeless romantic wanting love more than anything else in the world.”
PLEASE. STOP. AND LISTEN CLOSELY.
“Hopeless romantic”, the keyword: hopeless.
Hope less. Less hope. That doesn’t exactly scream grounded, strategic decision-making, does it?
Let’s be honest.
If someone wants love more than anything else in the world, that’s a huge red flag in disguise. It means they haven’t yet mastered self-love. They’re searching for validation, self-worth, and happiness outside themselves. And that is a recipe for failure.
Love is not meant to complete you. It’s meant to meet you at your highest self. Two whole people building something powerful together.
📈 A Wedding Isn’t a Business Plan
If your idea of forever is built off a childhood dream of being rescued, wearing a 100% pure silk gown, a long train, and a veil…just so you can have your ‘Cinderella moment’ of having everyone look at you for one day, I invite you to zoom out.
YOU ARE NOT A DISNEY PRINCESS.
This isn’t a movie.
And even if it was, have you noticed how those movies end? Right after the kiss…and a fade to black. THE END.
That’s not real life. That’s programming. From an early age…likely before the age of seven…your subconscious was being shaped by fairy tales. And if no one has interrupted that story yet, it might be time to do so now.
And while we’re at it, please shut off the Jerry Maguire programming too.
“You complete me” is one of the most quoted lines in cinema and also one of the most toxic.
If you need someone else to complete you, you’re not ready for forever.
A life partner is not your missing half. They’re your aligned mirror…someone who complements your wholeness, not fills your emptiness.
It might sell movie tickets, but it won’t build a legacy.
If you’re measuring love by the size of the ring, the length of the guest list, or whether your “Cinderella moment” got enough likes on Instagram… If your biggest flex is that your favorite designer custom-made your gown in 100% pure silk and you paired it with Jimmy Choo heels because the name screams, “Hey, look at me… want some of that?”
We need to talk.
Because we’ve got some unlearning to do!!!
Strategy Before Ceremony
Before you plan the wedding, let’s talk wisdom.
I believe couples should invest in Life & Business Coaching before they touch a guest list or venue deposit. Why? Because weddings don’t build marriages; strategy does.
Let’s talk numbers.
What’s the ROI of a $60K wedding?
Or in Jeff Bezos’ case, an estimated $55 million dollar ceremony?
Unless Bezos is planning a merger with Mars and gave out shares of Amazon at the altar, I’m going to challenge that math. Could someone break down the ROI of the Bezos’ wedding? I’m listening…
$55 million could buy an impressive real estate portfolio generating passive income for years to come.
Imagine sitting down with me for 1–3 sessions before the big “I do.”
We’ll cover the stuff that actually predicts long-term success:
- 💸 Financial strategy about the wedding planning…because love doesn’t cancel debt.
- 🌱 Life alignment…because vision mismatch leads to resentment.
- 💬 Emotional maturity…because how you communicate and problem solve matter more than how you kiss. Some people do both: communicate and kiss gently. That’s impressive!!!
- 🧭 Real-world compatibility…because chemistry without strategy is chaos.
- 🧠 Deprogramming the subconscious Disney narrative…so you don’t blindly follow a fairy tale that ends in court.
Because learning about love shouldn’t come at the cost of learning a lesson in financial loss.
Investing in strategy now saves you money.
Your relationship deserves more than flowers and vows.
It deserves wisdom and a strategy that outlives the honeymoon.
It’s simple: don’t let outdated stories guide your biggest commitment.
And if you’re the man in the equation paying for THIS nonsense Disney programming…LISTEN UP:
If she’s calling it “HER wedding day”, she won’t hear the advice from you…But she will have a heart-to-heart with me, a life & business strategist. Seriously…if you gave her a ‘black card’, she definitely won’t take your advice on this one…
And that one conversation with me might be the smartest investment you ever make…It can save you thousands of dollars, even millions.
🤝 Already Married the Fantasy?
If you said yes to the fairy tale and you’re now living a reality that feels more like drama queen, that’s your wake-up call.
Look at the patterns. Recognize the programming. And if the story doesn’t serve your future anymore…
Make your EXIT. Gracefully.
💫 Stay Loyal to Your Self-Love Mastery
Forever doesn’t start with a silk designer wedding gown or a guest list.
It starts with YOU.
Your mindset.
Your vision.
Your boundaries.
And most importantly, your relationship with yourself.
And yes…as much as I love to network, light up a room on stage with a microphone, and build powerful connections in business…
When it comes to my wedding day, I want the opposite.
Just two people, deeply in love, making a forever commitment.
No glitter. No “fairy tale” performance. Forever Love.
Let’s skip the over-hyped theatrics and head straight to the honeymoon, the partnership, the legacy we’ll build together.
So no, I haven’t been married yet because I’m not rushing.
I’m not here to impress the internet.
I’m not checking a box Disney movies have instilled in people’s subconscious minds.
And I’m certainly not putting on a show with some ‘Hey, look at me…want some of that’ nonsense.
Would my future husband prefer someone who’s been married four times… or someone who waited for alignment?
I’m waiting for ‘forever’ commitment.
And I’ll wait as long as it takes for the real thing.
Because I don’t need to kiss a hundred frogs to know I don’t want to spend my life with one.
I’m not playing dress-up. I’m not a Barbie doll. I’m building legacy.
And I will stay loyal to self-love mastery until then.
Because forever isn’t a Disney fairy tale. It’s real!
Gentlemen, if you’re the one paying for the wedding...invest in wisdom.
Before you spend a single dollar on flowers, a gown, or venues, invest in 1:1 Life & Business coaching with me for strategy, clarity, and wisdom.
This is not an expense. This is the smartest investment you’ll ever make.
Protect your wealth. Protect your heart. Build a legacy, not just a “Cinderella” party.
Don’t let a moment of “Cinderella” celebration cost you a lifetime of financial stability.
Lead like the man who knows what forever really means.